Yahoo Messenger: 4 October 2000 04:06 PM

Subject: Is it a sin to date a foreigner in India?

julietscity: do you have time? now?

romeobanglore: hello...hon

julietscity: yes...yes...yes

julietscity: are you busy now

romeobanglore: welcome back !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

romeobanglore: no...not much busy

julietscity: ok, just spend a little time to chat with you

julietscity: I don't understand you mentioned that we can live together for 2-3 months each year

julietscity: how could it be possible?

julietscity: hey... slow typist????

romeobanglore: you suggested that to me first

julietscity: can anyone find a job and have 2-3 months of vacation?

romeobanglore: you told me that you won't be able to leave your job forever....so we can live together only a few months every year

julietscity: no...

romeobanglore: that is right...

julietscity: I said 2-3 months ... it should be discussing visa issues if I go to the United States

romeobanglore: or maybe only one month

julietscity: yes

romeobanglore: is it difficult to get visa for you?

romeobanglore: then we have a problem

romeobanglore: what will we do?

julietscity: no...the woman I met on the train who sat next to me... she went to S city for a visa to America

romeobanglore: how will you get a visa?

julietscity: it's not that difficult but only has to leave for couples months. If I apply to learn English course there...it will easy for me to extend my visa for one year

romeobanglore: Then you must plan for that

romeobanglore: find out the details of long term visa

julietscity: but courses cost a lot...that's why I have to earn more money

romeobanglore: you can earn by doing a part time job there

romeobanglore: I will also be there

julietscity: hey...money talks. If I can afford the cost of short-term English courses... it's easy to apply for a long-term visa

julietscity: I think the salary for part-time jobs will be much less ... it depends on where you might go... San Francisco?

romeobanglore: I don't know so...it might be California, Texas, New Jersey...

julietscity: My friend told me that the course will cost USD 1,200 a month, but I can only get a part-time salary of USD 120... so I still have to prepare for next year's expenses

romeobanglore: how many months the course will take?

julietscity: Where you might go to work is related to my part-time salary and the cost of the course

romeobanglore: I don't know where exactly I will get the job...because so many companies...which one will give me a job, I can't say...you know

julietscity: six months or one year... there are courses for foreigners

romeobanglore: find out more details for the course and Visa

julietscity: If you have time to find the answer for me, then you can easily read everything mentioned in English

romeobanglore: where can I find out all these things?

julietscity: I have started searching for courses on our agency website

romeobanglore: ok. Let me know where to check. I will search about it

julietscity: if you are an Indian who wish to learn English in America...what kind of information you wish to know

romeobanglore: well....from India, there aren't many people who go to the US to study English

romeobanglore: People go for higher studies after writing GRE

romeobanglore: Why you don't try for GRE also

romeobanglore: or TOEFL

julietscity: many students need to take advanced English courses for this, but this is only used as the basis of TOEFL

romeobanglore: Learning English can be done in India. So not many people go there to study English.

romeobanglore: For other courses, you have to write TOEFL or GRE

julietscity: This course is the same... If I pass the exam and get a high score, then I can apply to study and major in the course I want

julietscity: I don't have a professional course that I particularly want to study ... nor do I want to be a professional or superwoman...

romeobanglore: ok....but you have to make sure about the visa

romeobanglore: no...I didn't say that... I want you to get a Visa and come to the US

julietscity: A student visa is easy for foreigners

romeobanglore: I need you there

julietscity: I need to prepare more money for the course fee each month

romeobanglore: then it is ok...check out the procedures

julietscity: I will

romeobanglore: hmmm....once you are in the US, we both can share

romeobanglore: ok....but I can't be sure of the state...you know

romeobanglore: if I was new in this place, we could have lived together

julietscity: but I may not find a part-time job there

romeobanglore: yes...but the money I get will be less

romeobanglore: One day I will take you to India

julietscity: ok

julietscity: Maybe it's cheaper to learn English in India and pay for living there ... I can live without any work pressure

romeobanglore: how is your headache?

romeobanglore: that is possible...English courses are very very cheap here

julietscity: My headache is ok now, a return visit is still required on October 23... Have you asked any foreigners about their monthly living expenses in India?

julietscity: Can I be there now... I probably don't need to work

romeobanglore: there are many students from other countries who study here, but not just basic English

julietscity: what are they majoring in?

romeobanglore: There aren't many foreigners working in India

romeobanglore: because India has a lot of people and less jobs

romeobanglore: if you come here, the problem is we can't stay together...I told you that, remember?

julietscity: we still stay together...but in a different way

julietscity: you don't like that?

romeobanglore: how?

julietscity: I will live in a homestay or apartment like any girl and we will date every day

julietscity: Learn how to travel or live in India

romeobanglore: it is not that simple...people will come to know...especially in Bangalore, there are lots of people from my place

romeobanglore: they will spread the news

julietscity: what kinds of the news... will damage your family reputation?

romeobanglore: the news that we are dating...they will be afraid

romeobanglore: and such a news...that I am with a foreigner will spread everywhere

julietscity: for what? People there don't allow your people to date foreigners

romeobanglore: and the other thing is that I won't get enough money if I stay in India

romeobanglore: People won't do anything...but the news will spread to my house and relatives...they may not like it

julietscity: oh... Is it a sin to date a foreigner in India?

romeobanglore: it is not a sin...to date means to marry here usually

romeobanglore: just casual dating is not common

julietscity: but is dating an Indian girl usually acceptable?

romeobanglore: people will think that they will marry...parents and relatives may or may not agree according to their preferences

romeobanglore: dating with an Indian girl is common, so there isn't any news in that

julietscity: so anyone will be the same... in India

romeobanglore: but dating usually means to eat out and have a movie...

romeobanglore: yes, the society is strict

romeobanglore: but more than that, my family will come to know and they will be scared

julietscity: ok...then I won't be able to travel in India with you

romeobanglore: that is one thing...our freedom will be limited

romeobanglore: it is always better to be in a place where we two can be free

romeobanglore: to do whatever we like however we like

julietscity: hmm...the USA

romeobanglore: the US is one option

julietscity: another question is May

romeobanglore: you know why I said May?...to make sure that you have a job, even if I didn't get a job in the US by that time

julietscity: I know you tell me about your preparations ... but will it be too late?

romeobanglore: may not be...I have told my Project manager my intentions

romeobanglore: He knows about you also

julietscity: ME?

romeobanglore: Once I finish learning Java, I can start

romeobanglore: and the other things I wrote in the mail

romeobanglore: yes

julietscity: He may not agree with your relationship with foreigners

romeobanglore: He is actually a friend

romeobanglore: He doesn't have any problem. He is only 2 years elder than me

romeobanglore: He may also leave

romeobanglore: after January next year

julietscity: You must leave before him, or he is now trying to leave before you

romeobanglore: you know the problems we have about leaving our company

julietscity: yes...

romeobanglore: he plans to leave with me

julietscity: So everyone in your group tries to leave and leaves all questions to others

romeobanglore: the other colleagues also have the same plans

romeobanglore: we all have discussed and decided to stay until this project completes and then leave

julietscity: So... if that happens again, all your group members will leave, leaving you and another member alone... what should you do?

romeobanglore: by then we can train some other person also

romeobanglore: That has been decided, I will surely leave....

romeobanglore: we will give notice early

julietscity: If no one can train ... the reputation of your group will be tested again

romeobanglore: We have tried and given our best so far for this group.

romeobanglore: but we can't stay here for longer

romeobanglore: it is the duty of the top managers to recruit someone to our group and get trained

julietscity: after Jan. Ashok and Ojas will also quit the job and go to the US with you?

romeobanglore: that is the plan

julietscity: You told me that your colleagues in the United States wrote you an email because they needed new employees

romeobanglore: but in any case, I will leave

romeobanglore: yes...

julietscity: can you reply to him and ask about the job there?

romeobanglore: but that vacancy might have got filled!

romeobanglore: that was an urgent situation

julietscity: Maybe he didn't know you're interested in the US, but now you should let him know

romeobanglore: but still, you know I have to stay here till this project ends

romeobanglore: that is not a problem. There are so many agents

julietscity: Maybe he has a new vacancy at another company or has any good news for you

julietscity: ok, your lunch time... Keep all our discussions in mind... I will write to you tonight after the meeting

romeobanglore: there was one of my female colleague here

romeobanglore: she was just joking about S city

romeobanglore: that is why I couldn't write

julietscity: about S city? For what? Has she been here?

romeobanglore: no

romeobanglore: just joking

romeobanglore: everyone knows something about you

julietscity: since we are chatting, does she want you to confirm the information about S City?

romeobanglore: no, she knows that I have a girlfriend from S city

julietscity: and?

romeobanglore: she knew I am chatting with you and so she just teased me, that is all

romeobanglore: she told me that she will look at your profile!

julietscity: yeah... now everyone wants to be a hacker to understand what we are chatting

julietscity: No personal information on the Internet, right? I didn't fill anything!

romeobanglore: that is ok

romeobanglore: now Ashok called me for lunch

julietscity: she didn't know my name...but maybe someday we can chat with her

julietscity: Ashok is not in your team?

romeobanglore: maybe

romeobanglore: no...he is from another group

romeobanglore: we go for lunch together

julietscity: ok...have your lunch now...

romeobanglore: about your course, I will try

julietscity: boo..boo...

julietscity: I haven't kissed in a long time...

romeobanglore: boo boo

romeobanglore: bye

julietscity: bye

romeobanglore: yes.....booboo and bye