Yahoo Messenger: 28 June 2001 10:46 PM

Subject: I don't want to get in such a situation

julietscity: hello

julietscity: hello again!

romeobanglore: yes

julietscity: about my classmate Helena, I will ask her about Indians and what kind of Indians she doesn't like

romeobanglore: I am getting your messages

julietscity: you know... just like I don't like some kind of Germans

julietscity: but... If I had a chance to learn more about the Germans ... maybe my mind will change...

romeobanglore: nonono... it's not required

julietscity: and you... you certainly have the opportunity to meet more Germans while working in the German office

romeobanglore: she can have her opinion

julietscity: for Helena, she may have only met Indians temporarily and did not have the opportunity to spend more time with Indians.

romeobanglore: I don't want to change her opinion

julietscity: you know other people ... such as Anshu, Sylvia or Allison ... they all have a chance to get to know India ... so they make a good impression on Indians

romeobanglore: again, I don't want to change her opinion!!!!!

julietscity: Oh...Anshu is an Indian...hahaha...

julietscity: I also won't change your perception of her

romeobanglore: Helena had enough chances...and she formed her opinion

julietscity: try to make you understand why she feels that way

romeobanglore: and it's not easy to change it, because she is a grown-up

romeobanglore: I understand

julietscity: I think I gave you the wrong information about Helena feeling

romeobanglore: you know...the basic feeling is same... why Americans treat Asians bad?

romeobanglore: because they think all of them are cheaters

julietscity: If someone asks me who in my country I don't like ... I would say the same thing

romeobanglore: it's a good thing you told me, otherwise, I would have made a mistake

romeobanglore: yes...you might say the same...Helena didn't say about some people...she said about the whole country

julietscity: I made a mistake for you

romeobanglore: and I belong to that country

julietscity: NO... she didn't say about the whole country!!!!

julietscity: It's my fault, the wrong message was passed to you

julietscity: she didn't say that!!!

romeobanglore: no... I understood what she meant

julietscity: Hey!!

julietscity: If you still think that way... what makes you different from Helena. Anyway, Helena is not the kind of person you think

romeobanglore: I have no bad views on Malaysians or Chinese Asians

julietscity: Yes, of course, you have!!

romeobanglore: I don't have! I didn't say anything like that... I said that I am not interested in those people who think Indians are bad

julietscity: Why the German driver yelled at you, but you are not angry! But when I just passed on a little message about Helena, you showed great anger at her character!!

julietscity: not interested in... it means dislike... the same... don't change different attitudes

romeobanglore: who told you that I didn't feel angry with the bus driver? But I could not do anything, it is his country...this case also...it is Helena's place... I don't want to get in such a situation

romeobanglore: yes...it's a kind of dislike...but not against a whole country or race... only to some individuals

julietscity: I will ask Helena this question later... but... it doesn't seem necessary... if she says she likes you... it won't change your mind

romeobanglore: till today, I had nothing against her... but only today I came to know about her thoughts

julietscity: you know it's dangerous because it may be that I showed you the wrong information and you already know what she thinks ... and start confronting someone like this

romeobanglore: how will you feel in such a situation? you were too angry about the bus driver

julietscity: sometimes... in your personality... there is also a prejudice against certain things

romeobanglore: the wrong message... you said clearly what Helena thinks...you didn't add anything of your own...that's the right message, right?

romeobanglore: can you tell me, what prejudice I have now?

julietscity: dislike and hate... have different levels or degrees

julietscity: She didn't say she hated Indians

julietscity: she just based on her experience and talked about some cases about Indian... so... I told you "she dislikes..."

romeobanglore: ok...she said she dislikes... why should I like someone who dislikes me?

julietscity: maybe I should say ... she said some small opinions and criticisms on Indians

julietscity: maybe her impression of the Indians is not so bad

romeobanglore: the main thing is not "dislike or hate"...the main thing is "Indian"

julietscity: she didn't say she didn't like you! Did I tell you?

romeobanglore: no... but I am an Indian!

romeobanglore: how would you feel if someone said they didn't like people in your country?

julietscity: Ojas may have said that he doesn't like people in our country

romeobanglore: will you go and visit that person?

romeobanglore: he never said like that!

julietscity: but Ojas is your friend and I will show him my good deeds and prove that not everyone in my country is a bad person

romeobanglore: will you go to Ojas's house with me?

romeobanglore: you will feel bad

julietscity: I will, of course, visit Ojas and tell him that he is also a bad guy ... because he once betrayed his girlfriend

romeobanglore: you know we also say some things about other people here... I know that... but if someone says something against you, you keep away from it

julietscity: because I know you will protect me ... if Ojas's words hurt me ... I know you will be there and say something to him

romeobanglore: hahaha...see...now you started to seek revenge on Ojas!

romeobanglore: I should also go and fight with Ojas?

romeobanglore: yes...if you are hurt, I will defend you...but the feeling of hurt will be there in your mind, right?

julietscity: no... you should argue with Helena and show her another Indian style

romeobanglore: I know if we visit Helena, she may not say anything against me... but I will always have the feeling in my mind

romeobanglore: if she was in India, it is good... but why should I go to her place and fight?

julietscity: that is your prejudice

romeobanglore: I am prejudiced against one person...

julietscity: you haven't seen someone yet ... just through the description of others, and then you already have your own opinion on her

romeobanglore: because of a reason... a solid reason

romeobanglore: see... when you tell her we are coming ... she will be uneasy... because she is prejudiced towards the Indians

romeobanglore: you know her very well...so your opinion is valid to me

romeobanglore: that's why I told this

julietscity: nonono...I didn't say that

julietscity: I need to check my mails

romeobanglore: I will send the lines

romeobanglore:

"Helena doesn't like Indians ... she said that 5% of Indians live in Malaysia and most of them are bad guys and cheaters. So ... it might feel bad for you to go there..."

julietscity: so...

romeobanglore: so?

julietscity: ok... I should say... Helena doesn't like Indians in Malaysia...

romeobanglore: when I go there, I am an Indian in Malaysia

julietscity: because you said you want to buy a computer before using this bonus... and you didn't think it was a good time to meet each other... so... going to Malaysia may be bad for you

romeobanglore: see...honey...you know what she meant...

romeobanglore: and you know what she actually said to you...that's why you told me it might feel bad for me to go there

julietscity: Hey!!! you know what I mean for Indians in Malaysia!!!! you are not one of them

romeobanglore: I didn't say I want to buy a computer with bonus money...I said only in case we couldn't meet

julietscity: of course not!!! she didn't say anything about you!!!

romeobanglore: and I didn't say the situation is not good...you said that

romeobanglore: yes...not about me... but she said about the whole people including me...

romeobanglore: you know what she means, right? honestly, think...is it good?

julietscity: In my conversation with Helena, she only cared about marriage because of my age. That's the only point.

romeobanglore: is it good for me, I mean...

julietscity: because she understands what love is ... so she won't oppose or disagree with someone I love because of race or other countries

romeobanglore: she will not disagree with you...correct... but what will be her real feelings?

julietscity: Don't ask me ... when white people are prejudiced against yellow people ... it's easy to understand ... but I don't understand that this yellow person also has a prejudice against yellow people ... I never thought about this problem or feeling to its severity

julietscity: Do you think I know her true feelings, so I wrote these to hurt you or make you unhappy?

romeobanglore: yes...you are a simple easy person...you don't feel anything about Helena's comment?

romeobanglore: no...I know you wrote it just to warn me...

julietscity: OK...stop

julietscity: you have to go now...it's late for your dinner

romeobanglore: it's at 9 o'clock

julietscity: One last thing ... you don't need any warning from me ... I will never learn to warn people in this hurtful way

romeobanglore: I am sorry if I upset you