Let's talk about one of the oldest, most common and best-known toys, the . If I had to decide on just one toy, I'd pick my favourite dildo over anything else.

The great thing about dildos is that they obviously work without batteries, don't make any noise at all, and last you a lifetime. They can be used whenever and wherever you want, and except that they need to be cleaned just like any other toy, you don't have to worry about anything with them. So if you enjoy penetrative sex, you should get a dildo.

Unlike what porn videos or fanfics suggest, however, BIGGER IS NOT BETTER. Unless you belong to the very small minority of women who enjoy having their cervix poked, you won't have much fun with anything over 6-7 inches of insertable length without serious practice. And why would you even want to practice that and stretch yourself unnecessarily when you can have the most fantastic orgasms with smaller toys?

So which one to get? It really depends on what you like. In general, the toy should be slimmer when it's more on the rigid side and can be wider when it's squishier. If you enjoy lots of pressure on your g-spot, get a firm toy that's designed for that. Metal and glass dildos are usually great for the purpose. Do you prefer a feeling of fullness? Get a very soft but girthy toy (if you watched Fight Club, you know what I'm talking about). And if you're unsure what you might like the best, get a medium-firm one that's as close as possible to an average-sized penis (5.1-5.5 inches/12.9-13.97 cm). It doesn't have to be a realistic-looking dildo if that isn't your thing. It's just the size that matters.

The only reason to get a bigger dildo than that - and by bigger, I'm talking about 6-7 inch ones - is if you want to use them in certain positions in a harness. For example, if you want to try out a spooning position, a longer dildo will be better suited. Speaking of strap-ons, I really like the more floppy dildos for that (vaginally, at least), they just feel incredible, and there's no risk of getting hurt, no matter how rough you like it.

Whatever you decide on, make sure to get a toy that's made of a body-safe material. They will be more expensive, but your health should be worth it to you. And that goes for all toys, not just dildos. Oh, and also, don't forget the lube. Unless you get a glass or metal toy, it will feel much better when you add some lube. And for the bigger or more draggy dildos, it's a must-have anyway.

Until next time,

Her