I think everyone has been, or at least has fantasized about being tied up during sex. If I'm wrong then I credit my belief with having grown up in Southern California. (You know the old joke... how many Californians does it take to screw in a lightbulb? Californians don't screw in light bulbs, they screw in jacuzzis! ) Anyway, I really hope I'm not wrong. Not for my sake... But for the ones who haven't ever considered it. Because there's something to be said about giving up all control. It allows an experience free from guilt! (You couldn't help it! You had no choice!) So sure, I have let my lover tie me up before... and vice versa. If you and your lover find that sex is feeling a little too routine, I strongly recommend trying it. It definitely adds a new dimension of excitement to a struggling sex life!

I did not have to worry about that with Chris! Sexually, we were amazing together! We couldn't keep off of each other, in fact! I remember once, we both fell asleep during sex and when we woke up, we just picked up from where we left off! We literally did not leave the bedroom for days at a time! We had pizza delivered to the bedroom window! There was one thing I had been a bit worried about though... You remember Jenny? She still lived with me...

One day, after Chris had been at my house for a week or so, I had gone out of the bedroom to get a drink from the kitchen. When I turned to go back down the hall I found Jenny standing at the doorway to my bedroom. As I walked past her and back into the bedroom Jenny leaned in the doorway and pointing at Chris she laughed as she said, "I have a new name for you!"

We both looked at her, confused... "What?"

"Oh no!" she said laughing, "I'm not telling you!"

Every time she saw us after that she just started to laugh and when we asked her what she was talking about, she just said, "No, not telling you." Laughing every time! This went on for about 3 days. Finally, she caught us out of the bedroom and looked at Chris and said,

"Tell me, do you spell it O-H G-O-D or is it just...?"

I'm sure my face was beet red as we all started laughing our asses off! I knew then that Jenny would be okay.

The Bonnie Raitt concert was coming up and I was really looking forward to going. Chris and I got new outfits to wear to the show and on Thursday night headed to Irvine Meadows. When we got there, though, the place was pitch dark. Nobody was there! It was freaky! I mean it was like they packed up the whole venue and left with it! Chris said,

"Are you sure its supposed to be at Irvine Meadows?"

"I'm sure." I said as I pulled out the tickets to show her.

"Um..."

I said as I looked at them,

"Except it's not until next Thursday."

Well, we were dressed and out of the house so Chris took me to a club I'd never been to called The Boom Boom Room. It was located right on the beach in Laguna. It was mostly a mens club but I didn't mind. It was a nice place. You could walk out the back door and be on the beach. There was a huge rock out there and Chris and I spent most of the evening sitting on that rock, getting to know each other. For the first time we talked! I mean about our lives. Where we grew up. What it was like. You know, things other than what we wanted to do to each other! Well, that was until this one thing happened that, I believe was the defining moment of how our relationship was going to be...

I had gone inside to use the restroom and when I came out, I saw there was a jukebox and stopped to look at it. While I was picking some songs, a man came down the stairs and passed by me in the hall. A few seconds later, Chris, who was watching me from the rock outside, came in and said

"Oh my God! That guy just looked at you like he wanted to do you right there against the jukebox!"

I turned to look at her and she said

"and it turned me on!"

She had this hungry look about her that made me think of a wolf with drool dripping off its lolling tongue! I said,

"That turns me on!"

And it did!!

So began a relationship in which we would set out to find our limitations... and possibly never actually find them! Each step further into areas that I'd never have believed I'd go, was another realization that I would - and then again - maybe even further.

After our time at The Boom Boom Room, I guess you could say we were on a mission. Knowing it turned Chris on just to think of seeing me with somebody else was so hot to me! Knowing that I would let it happen, drove Chris out of her mind! (That is, in a good way!)

That led to a conversation about topping. Topping? What's that, you say...? That's what I said too! Topping means controlling. The top is the dominant one in a relationship. The submissive one in a relationship is called the bottom. We talked about the lifestyle that leather Anne and Trixie lived and Chris said she would like to live that way. The way she explained it sounded pretty good to me too.

This is what she said...

"I will take really good care of you. I'll cook your meals for you. I'll buy your clothes. I'll bathe you, brush your hair for you. I'll pamper you, in every way. You will feel like a princess! In return, you will do anything I ask because you'll to do everything you can just to please me."

I did want to please her! It turned me on more than I'd ever felt before!

By the time Thursday rolled 'round again and it was time to get ready to go, I was tied to my bed and Chris wasn't feeling like she wanted to stop teasing the hell out of me just yet. Consequently, we were running very late by the time we headed out to Irvine Meadows! We knew we had likely missed the opening act and were hoping to get there before missing too much of Bonnie Raitt's show. Just as we were coming to the offramp Chris said,

"You have the tickets, right?"

I said "I put them on the counter for you!"

We looked at each other, already knowing that, as late as we were already, there was no possible way of going back for the tickets and still making it to the show before it was over. So, after holding on to those tickets for six months, and largely being the thing that brought us together, Chris and I never made it to the concert.

No regrets. We went to The Boom Boom Room instead.